Dr LeCrone
03-30-2006, 12:45 PM
Do you know Wellbut?
Wellbut qualifies every statement. When someone says, “You look great today,” Wellbut replies, “Well, but I don’t feel very god.”
Or if told, “Your report was well-prepared.” Wellbut has to say, “Wellbut, I should have changed the format.”
The job is yours.
Wellbut, you know there are others who are more qualified.
It’s a wonderful day, isn’t it?
Wellbut, it could up and rain at any time.
You see, Wellbut never feels completely in control.
Wellbut does not have the confidence of a leader.
Wellbut is not assertive.
Wellbut does not practice problem-solving.
Wellbut is not a take-charge person.
Wellbut lacks self-esteem.
Somewhere along the way in life…
Wellbut brought home a project from kindergarten. “See the picture I colored at school today.”
Umm. (Well) it’s nice (but) you should have stayed in the lines…used a different color here.
Wellbut was thinking about his lifelong career choice. “I may want to be a doctor.”
Wellbut, that’s along haul for you. Why don’t you just plan to come into the business with me?
Wellbut was nominated for a class officer. “I may run for president. What do you think?”
Wellbut you know that’s a lot of responsibility.
The world is full of Wellbuts, those who live on the edge of control and freedom and fail to exercise their talents and abilities to live life to the fullest. The world is also full of Wellbut-makers, those who hold back on encouragement and praise and who fail to give free rein to the significant persons in their lives. Wellbut-makers are the ones who always tell a person to stop just short of the green light of opportunity.
Wellbuts can turn their lives around if they learn to wash away self-eroding thoughts and change illogical beliefs.
They may have to learn to tackle problems, to analyze and look for alternatives to find a solution.
They may have to learn to make decisions based on the best knowledge they have at that point in time.
They may have to surround themselves with people who will provide the encouragement and praise they need to build up their self-esteem.
They may have to learn that sometimes the best lessons in life are those learned from doing and redoing, improving, gaining confidence and knowledge along the way.
Sometimes we have to fail before we can succeed, but we don’t need someone to keep us from trying, to plant doubts in our minds, to diminish the small successes that come our way. We need to hear someone along the way to say, “Go for it.”
Wellbuts can change and the first step is to erase those qualifying statements, to be decisive and positive in replies.
You look great today.
I feel great.
Your report was well prepared.
I think it was thorough.
The promotion is yours.
I’m ready for it.
Harold H. LeCrone, Jr., Ph.D. Copyright 1988
Wellbut qualifies every statement. When someone says, “You look great today,” Wellbut replies, “Well, but I don’t feel very god.”
Or if told, “Your report was well-prepared.” Wellbut has to say, “Wellbut, I should have changed the format.”
The job is yours.
Wellbut, you know there are others who are more qualified.
It’s a wonderful day, isn’t it?
Wellbut, it could up and rain at any time.
You see, Wellbut never feels completely in control.
Wellbut does not have the confidence of a leader.
Wellbut is not assertive.
Wellbut does not practice problem-solving.
Wellbut is not a take-charge person.
Wellbut lacks self-esteem.
Somewhere along the way in life…
Wellbut brought home a project from kindergarten. “See the picture I colored at school today.”
Umm. (Well) it’s nice (but) you should have stayed in the lines…used a different color here.
Wellbut was thinking about his lifelong career choice. “I may want to be a doctor.”
Wellbut, that’s along haul for you. Why don’t you just plan to come into the business with me?
Wellbut was nominated for a class officer. “I may run for president. What do you think?”
Wellbut you know that’s a lot of responsibility.
The world is full of Wellbuts, those who live on the edge of control and freedom and fail to exercise their talents and abilities to live life to the fullest. The world is also full of Wellbut-makers, those who hold back on encouragement and praise and who fail to give free rein to the significant persons in their lives. Wellbut-makers are the ones who always tell a person to stop just short of the green light of opportunity.
Wellbuts can turn their lives around if they learn to wash away self-eroding thoughts and change illogical beliefs.
They may have to learn to tackle problems, to analyze and look for alternatives to find a solution.
They may have to learn to make decisions based on the best knowledge they have at that point in time.
They may have to surround themselves with people who will provide the encouragement and praise they need to build up their self-esteem.
They may have to learn that sometimes the best lessons in life are those learned from doing and redoing, improving, gaining confidence and knowledge along the way.
Sometimes we have to fail before we can succeed, but we don’t need someone to keep us from trying, to plant doubts in our minds, to diminish the small successes that come our way. We need to hear someone along the way to say, “Go for it.”
Wellbuts can change and the first step is to erase those qualifying statements, to be decisive and positive in replies.
You look great today.
I feel great.
Your report was well prepared.
I think it was thorough.
The promotion is yours.
I’m ready for it.
Harold H. LeCrone, Jr., Ph.D. Copyright 1988